The Faces of Climate Change

Elaine, USA

Climate Change, Interviews / June 1, 2020 by Matt Ryle, The Faces of Climate change

Elaine (80s), Maine, USA

If I had to choose the most remarkable individual I have ever met in my life, it would be my octogenarian friend Elaine. I lived near Elaine on the outskirts of Portland Maine.  She was my neighbor for 10 years but it was not until the second half of my time there that we met. Elaine was a very visible member of the community. A couple times a day she would take walks around the neighborhood. She often looked thoughtful while walking. I remember her walking tall with perfect posture. She would wave with an honest smile that would instantly be transferred to those who shared her glance. Her gaze, and even more so the gaze of her husband Francis, was the type that seemed to look inside you and see your soul. As I learned more about this remarkable couple I began to understand how they developed these skills.

I think it was the summer of 09 when I first got to know Elaine and Francis. As I hurried by their home in my car racing somewhere or another, I would glance over and see Elaine watering plants in black plastic pots from the nursery. Her yard was already among the most stunning in the neighborhood with edible plants galore. Her careful caring for these potted plants continued from June, through July, and into August. Perhaps it was providence that inspired me to knock on her door one day and introduce myself as a neighbor and explained that winter was coming and that it was time to get the plants in the ground. As I write this I can’t help but thinking that somehow it was Elaine’s plan all along to get me involved. She suggested I come by Saturday to help her and I agreed.

Elaine working in her Garden

I have never felt so over-directed in a project in my life. A detailed map existed for the precise location of each plant and there were persistent comments about the appropriate posture while gardening. The critique was kindly delivered in a caring way and to this day is appreciated. She patiently taught me the principles of no till gardening, how to repurpose newspaper as weed barrier and the value of garbage sandwiches. All were valuable permaculture lessons. Elaine quickly became both an inspiration and one of my most influential teachers. At the end of the day we had found new homes in the earth (I can still hear the way she says this word) for around 90 plants. She was building a haven for bees and food for the neighborhood. I remember bee balm, echinacea and strawberries being among the plants added to her already diverse edible landscape that day. She provided a delicious vegetarian meal and when we were done she offered to trade a 10-week yoga class in exchange for my efforts. Yoga has been a life changing part of this interacting and while I neglect my practice, selected exercises enable me to do demanding construction activities like hardwood flooring and roofing and feel perfect the subsequent day.   Elaine’s words follow.

What is your favorite part of living in Maine?
I’ve always felt proud to be a Mainer. In fact, I readily tell people that I was born in 1935, in Springvale, Maine. My parents and I lived at the town square, near Nasson College, and since they were both hairdressers, their “Marie’s Beauty Salon” was frequented by college students.                      

In the summer, we regularly drove a short distance to Mousam Lake where we would go swimming. Since Springvale is also not very far from Wells Beach, we had our choice of driving to the beach, or to the lake. I would walk along the shoreline enjoying the sound of the waves crashing on the shore while gathering sea shells. But I preferred swimming in the lake, and going for boat rides.

Elaine enjoying the beautiful outdoor areas of Maine

I have fond memories of growing up in that small Springvale town, and I like to recall my experience living there when I went to grade school. Later, I took the bus to the high school in the adjoining town of Sanford. It’s only when I went to college in 1954 that I left Springvale.

When I returned to Maine in 1960 (by the way, as a nun) – I lived in Waterville where I spent a week’s vacation in nearby Manchester, Maine, at Cobbosseeconte Lake. There I relished seeing and was mesmerized listening to the wail of the loons. It was also an added pleasure to be reminded that I had earlier, at Mousam Lake, been in the presence of loons Voices: Common Loon.

After I left the convent in 1970 and then married Francis McGillicuddy in 1972, we settled down in this home in Portland, Maine where I still live. I especially appreciate its location because, living three and a half miles from in town Portland, it offers the advantages of access to city life such as concerts, as well as a countryside atmosphere on this quiet, tree lined street without sidewalks. So I’d say that my favorite part about living in Maine is its bucolic pastoral setting – its rustic tranquility, even around its cities.

I also appreciate the variety in Maine’s landscape. As a coastal state, the northern-most state in New England’s northeast, it borders the Atlantic Ocean. So its terrain includes a jagged, rocky coastline, low, rolling mountains, heavily forested interior; and picturesque waterways, rivers and woods and parks.

Least favorite part 

What is my “least favorite part” about living in Maine? The short answer is, I actually can’t think of a “least favorite part”. But I do want to add this:

Before Francis died in 2010, we did a lot of traveling. We went on tours in Italy (including Rome and Venice) Israel, Ireland, France, and we also spent three weeks in Vietnam. I’m glad and grateful we did that because, it not only gave us a deeper understanding of other cultures – it also helped us to understand that our home in Maine is a unique part of our planet earth. 

Do you see changes to the world where you live?

Yes I have seen changes to the world where I live. It’s been warmer. In fact I’ve learned from the EPA that Maine has warmed twice as much as the rest of the contiguous 48 states. There has also been more rain and so, the sea level is rising and the oceans are also becoming more acidic.

How will this impact your community?

It’s been warmer and ticks are active when temperatures are above 45 F,  The transmission of ticks borne diseases like Lyme disease to humans in Maine is becoming common.  There has been more rain (and even if this happened only once that I know of) – some lower lying streets intown Portland like Somerset Street, not far from Back Cove along the Baxter Boulevard, were flooded. And in Scarborough (located to the south of Portland) sea level rise has threatened their salt marshes.  

Finally the oceans are becoming more acidic, studies published with University of Maine scientists as lead authors show a fishery in which warming waters off Maine have changed the dynamics of the lobster and shrimp population.  Many Mainers still rely on the ocean for their livelihoods.

Elaine’s permaculture oasis, a gift to the neighborhood

Can you give me an example of something you are doing to reduce your impact on the planet?

I am maintaining the permaculture ecosystem that my late husband Francis and I put in place on our property during a three year period, from September 2006, until the autumn of 2009. As an “edible landscape” its cherry tree and plum tree blossoms and milkweed plants, for example, attract bees (which are endangered). Moreover, the pond in the back yard attracts frogs which in 2018 were reported to be “disappearing.” 

Anything else you would like to ask or tell me?

I very much appreciate your own good work in initiating this project of “Climate Change Interviews”. I must add this as well: When Francis and I undertook this permaculture “project” in 2006, you were living in Portland Maine as our neighbor. And, it’s you, Matt Ryle, who helped us select and plant some flowers which are also decidedly a part of “permaculture”.

Working with Elaine on her permaculture project provided inspiration to continue those efforts on the places I have owned and focus on adding visible garden spaces with fruit trees and berries to the people who live there in the future to enjoy.  Many people have coached me that this was a poor use of financial resources but I am convinced it has significantly increased the value of these properties.   However the true value I have obtained from my interactions with Elaine are not measured in dollars but the lessons I learned.  

Francis was a Catholic Priest and Elaine a nun during the questionable time of America’s history, the Vietnam war.  They found love, true real love that lasted all their days together.  My heart is warm at this very moment and filled with joy as I recall the way they interacted. I watched Fancis one day as he was preparing in a meditative like state for his final transition and I could not possibly know it at the time but this brief moment in my past prepared me for when I helped my own father with his final transition. There are times in life when we all try to understand love as well as death. There can be beauty in both and perhaps this audio story about Elaine can help readers who follow this link gain some understanding of both Sing to me and I will hear you.  

Elaine has now written a number of books about their true love story that can be found here Books by Elaine.  I have not read these books but am feeling compelled to make time for this opportunity.  I am pondering the word providence. I did not know the definition of this word before I met Elaine and it is one of the many new words I am learning as I walk this new path in life. One truism I have certainly experienced from my interactions with Elaine is that by giving you seem to get back much more in return.

Books on Grief and Death

Annotated Bibliography Assembled by Elaine G. McGillicuddy

Books on Grief                                                                                                                                              In general, I found the first three to four books listed here especially good.

1. Martha Whitmore Hickman: Healing After Loss, Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief
Each page has a quote, a development of the thought, and an affirmation. I like this book a lot not just because the author who lost her daughter uses quotes from a wide variety of sources, she also offers very helpful & some very deep insights on bereavement.

2. Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D: Understanding Your Grief Ten Essential Touchstones
This is a good basic book that covers all the aspects of grief.

3. Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D: The Journey Through Grief, Reflections on Healing
There’s less copy in this book but somehow more.

4. C.S. Lewis: A Grief Observed
This short book is a classic, especially good for loss of a spouse. I identified with a lot in this book.

Other Books in which I’ve found helpful passages or sections here and there.

5. Earl A. Grollman, (rabbi): Living When A Loved One Has Died

6. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler: On Grief and Grieving – less helpful

7. Christine Longaker: Facing Death and Finding Hope
Chapter 11 “Healing Bereavement” and
Chapter 12, “The Spiritual Dimension of Bereavement” in particular.

8. Elizabeth Watson: Guests of my Life
The author selects passages from six great writers – Emily Dickinson, Rainer Maria Rilke, Katherine Mansfield, Rabindranath Tagor, Alan Paton and Walt Whitman to help her with her grief at the death of her daughter. I like this book a lot.

9. Paul Bennett: Loving Grief
Excellent little book. Paul Bennett also hosts a blog called “loving grief” here.
It’s worth looking at.

10. James H. Burch: There is No Death. There is Only Life
Pamphlet available online for $5. here:
Uses science & modern approach as well as author’s own translations of Gospels from the original Aramaic.

Books on Death

The first two books on death were lent me by a priest friend after my father died in 1979. I had taken notes and found them so helpful to reread after Francis died that I purchased my own copies. They are:

1. Marc Oraison: Death And Then What?

2. Ladislaus Boros: The Mystery of Death
Not easy reading for general public, but I found gems in it.

3. Marie Murphy: New Images of the Last Things, Karl Rahner on Death and Life After Death

4. Karl Rahner: The Theology of Death
Deeply theological (Not easy reading but gems here too.)

5. John Shelby Spong: Eternal Life: A New Vision
I love this book too!

7. Marc Oraison: La mort est une autre naissance
Espaces libres, Albin Michel, Paris.
Marc Oraison wrote the preface. Analytical, comprehensively covers various religions historically.

8. John O’Donohue: Anam Cara
Chapter 6 Death: The Horizon is in the well.

9. Elizabeth Johnson: Friends of God and Prophets
Chapters 10 “The Darkness of Death“ Chapter 11: “Companions in Hope.”

10. Thich Nhat Hanh: No Death, No Fear

11. Forrest Church: Love & Death: My Journey through the Valley of the Shadow.

12. Deepak Chopra: Life After Death The Burden of Proof

13. Jung on Death and Immortality Selected & Introduced by Jenny Yates

14. Maggie Callanan & Patricia Kelley: Final Gifts
(About the dying process.)

15. Marta Felber Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies

16. Greg Mogenson: Spiritual, Ethical and Pastoral Aspects of Death and Bereavement
(Chapter 10 in this book greatly helped me after my mother died. So I bought the book, then discovered it was taken from his own book which I also bought:

17. Greg Mogenson: Greeting the Angels An Imaginal View of the Mourning Process
I really like this book! Mogenson, a Canadian Jungian analyst has a website too with articles available in pdf. Of all the books I’ve listed, this is the one that not only helped me the most, it’s the book that most mirrors my experience. Hence, my power point presentation.

18. Fred Brancato: Ancient Wisdom and the Measure of Our Days

19. Sandra Gilbert: Death’s Door
Began as a book on the elegy but grew into a quite comprehensive study.

20. Helen Nearing: Loving, and Leaving the Good Life, Light on Aging and Dying.
Two books written after Scott’s death. Subtitle of the second one: “An inspirational gathering of thoughts on living a good old age into death” Selected by Helen.

21. Kathleen Dowling Singh The Grace in Dying, A Message of Hope, Comfort, and Spiritual Transformation I discovered this book during the spring of 2014, a little over four years after Francis’ death. I would say, although in a manner different from that of Greg Mogenson’s book mentioned above, this one also made a profound impact on me. As a transpersonal psychologist who has worked with thousands of hospice patients, this author has coined the expression, and described it with examples – the “Nearing Death Experience.” I witnessed in Francis the transformation of which she speaks.

22. IN THE MIDST OF WINTER Selections from the Literature of Mourning From Catullus to Camus, from Shakespeare to Virginia Woolf, from Lady Ise to Adrienne Rich, great writers express the inexpressible. Edited by Mary Jane Moffat after the death of her husband.)

23. Dying A Book of Comfort Healing Words on Loss and Grief selected and edited by Pat McNees (after the death of her father.)

24. Mourning and the Transformation of Object Relationships, Evidence for the Persistence of Internal Attachments by John E. Baker, PhD Harvard Medical School and Cambridge Hospital I have found this online 73 page pdf extremely helpful, as much as Greg Mogenson’s book, listed above (# 17).

Books of Poetry dealing with love and/or loss – gifts given me:

Donald Hall: Without, The Painted Bed, The Best Day the Worst Day, Life with Jane Kenyon.(His wife Jane Kenyon was a poet too; she wrote The Boat of Quiet Hours.

Book List for those dealing with Grief
~ titles given by friends which I did not read:

Good Grief ~ Granger E Westberg
Praying Our Goodbyes ~ Joyce Rupp
To Love Again: Finding Comfort and Meaning in Times of Grief ~Jean Monbourquette
I Can’t Stop Crying ~ Rev. John D. Martin
Learning To Say Goodbye When A Parent Dies ~ Eda LeShan
The Grief Recovery Handbook ~ J. W. James and Russell Friedman
How We Grieve Relearning the World ~Thomas Attig
The Story Of Ruth ~ Joan Chittister and John August Swanson. (Chapter on Loss)
As Much Time as it Takes – A Guide for the Bereaved,
Their Families and Friends ~ Martin J Keough
Gone From My Sight – The Dying Experience ~ Barbara Karnes
On Death and Dying & Death The Final Stage of Growth ~ Elizabeth Kubler- Ross
Men and Grief: A Guide for Men Surviving the Death of a Loved One : A Resource for Caregivers and Mental Health Professional ~ Carol Staudacher

Website that offers a treasure trove of poems:


Why My Online Blog Is Not Interactive

Dear Friends,

One of you inquired why I have not set up my blog to invite comments as most bloggers do now. The fact is, I did not set out to be a blogger.

Instead, it was my late husband’s cancer diagnosis in September, 2009, which led me to write “Dear Family and Friends” letters. Francis and I wanted to give them news of his progress.

Two of our friends then created as an accessible place to “park” those letters. It made for a convenient way to bring people up to date on developments. (In reality, I must add, however, there has been a lot of interactivity, both before and after Francis died – but through email, not via the blog online.)

After Francis died, my Dear Family and Friends letters (again, posted on the blogspot(s) – have served several purposes, all related to my decision to write, that is – to share our story. In some of those letters, I shared a handful of poems before they were published in the first and third book. I also used email to notify people about book readings I’ve given on the second book, SING TO ME AND I WILL HEAR YOU – A Love Story (2014).

I might, in future, invite responses online to my emailed letters posted online, on the blog. But, I’m turning 80 years old this year, 2015, and have a lot of outside work to do – in warm weather, maintaining the permaculture garden around me, and, in winter, even with neighbors’ help, there’s shoveling to do – a lot of it this year! These outdoor activities are blessedly compatible with writing, but, for an elder, even one who is “fit,” – physical work like that also uses up energy.

Know, therefore, that I welcome responses to my own emails, through email – even if I’m not ready to open up my blog to the wider pubic, in an interactive way. The contact link on my website also allows anyone who would like to email me to do that. And I’ve been pleased to response to some who have.

Peace and Blessings,